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As one woman in a committed relationship remarks about her online sexual affairs: "I've had this discussion with my boyfriend and we both agree that as long as it's not with the same person more than twice, it is really masturbation.It's like reading an erotic story and masturbating to it.As a 29-year-old married woman who often engages in cybersex, says: When people feel trapped by their current circumstances, but still do not want to ruin their relationship, cyberspace may offer a parallel world in which things are better.Time spent in that world can help them their actual world, while not giving up on having exciting, even emotional experiences.Accordingly, many people will be just as disturbed about a partner's online sexual affairs as they would be if they discovered that their spouse was exchanging steamy love letters with someone else.When people do Hi, I'm Damian and I been dating a wonderful woman same age as me for about 5 monts. My phone broke, so my girl gave me one of her old phones.Consider the following statement from a 41-year-old married man (all citations are from to cheat—something that may even add spice to their offline relationship.These people believe that if they do not even know the real name of their cybermate—and never actually see them—their affair cannot be regarded as from a moral point of view; it's no different from reading a novel or other form of entertainment.
Nevertheless, since online affairs are real they do often cause actual harm to one's primary, offline romantic relationship.
They are also perceived to involve a lesser degree of betrayal, as they involve more imaginary elements and the degree of neglecting the partner's interests may be lesser.
The private nature of online affairs may make them less painful for the betrayed partner as well.
Living within the two worlds is not easy, however, and may become increasingly risky when people do not realize the limitations of each.
Whereas people having online affairs tend to understate their problematic nature, their offline partners typically do not see difference between online and offline affairs: A lack of direct physical contact and face-to-face meetings does not diminish the sense of a violation of their vow of exclusivity.
People, consciously or not, consider their online sexual relationships as real—they experience psychological states similar to those typically elicited by offline relationships.